Alex was 27, quiet but kind, always ready to help at church events or lend a hand at the food bank. He had a gentle smile and a way of making others feel seen. But lately, something had shifted.
He stopped showing up for Wednesday night fellowship. When asked, he said he was “just tired.” He missed two Sunday services in a row, which was unlike him. His social media posts became vague and somber—quotes about pain, silence, and endings.
One day, his friend Marcus noticed Alex had given away his guitar, something he cherished. “I just don’t play anymore,” Alex said with a shrug. “It’s better in someone else’s hands.”
Marcus tried to reach out. “You okay, man?”
Alex smiled faintly. “I’m fine. Just tired of everything.”
That phrase stuck with Marcus. He remembered a workshop at church about mental health, where they talked about warning signs—withdrawal, giving away possessions, expressions of hopelessness.
Later that week, Alex posted: “Sometimes the weight is too much. I want it all to stop.”
Marcus didn’t wait. He called Alex, then drove to his apartment. They talked for hours. Marcus didn’t try to fix anything—he just listened. He reminded Alex he wasn’t alone. Together, they called a local crisis line and scheduled a visit with a counsellor.
Recognizing the Signs
Alex’s story is fictional, but the signs are real. People struggling with suicidal thoughts may:
- Withdraw from social or spiritual activities
- Express feelings of hopelessness or being a burden
- Give away meaningful possessions
- Speak in vague or dark language like:
- “I’m tired of everything.”
- “You’d be better off without me.”
- “I just want it all to stop.”
What You Can Do
- Listen without judgment. Don’t try to fix—just be present.
- Ask directly but gently. “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” can open a door.
- Encourage professional help. Offer to go with them or help make the call.
- Know your resources. Keep contact info for local crisis lines, counsellors, and support groups.
